EPIC Dating: Myths of Dating (Part 3 of 4)

Myth #3: As long as I don’t get physically involved my serious dating relationships won’t affect my marriage

When you share your heart and love with someone with no boundaries it can damage your future marriage’s capacity for intimacy not as severe as sex before marriage but just as real. You’ll give your heart away.

Proverbs 4:23  

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.

You can’t approach a relationship full on without restraint.

Limits / Boundaries

There should always be that boundary in your mind and heart where you draw the line and say:

“I will not give my heart away until the day at the altar, until then I will leave it completely in the hands of the one I can trust and that I will never break up with and wont break up with me – Jesus.

Ask God to guard your heart. If you don’t you’ll find someone to give your heart to over and over again.

In the constant dating world we’re sharing our heart with everyone and we’re broken because we have no boundaries.

If you give pieces of your heart away here’s the damage that it can have in marriage one day.

You’ll walk into marriage with the only person whom you should have given that level of emotion and love and mind and heart but it’s not all intact.

Parts of your thoughts and love are scattered to those other guys or girls.

You have been emotionally intimate with someone else.

You’ve given your Love, Feelings & Time and You want to give your whole heart to that one but you can’t because you dated seriously over and over again giving your heart away.

If you think a serious dating relationship is okay just because you don’t get physical, but giving your heart and emotions away is okay. You’re actually saying or claiming that marriage revolves only around a physical / sexual relationship. That it has nothing to do with your love, emotions, mind or heart.

The truth is your emotions, your mind, your heart, your love and your bodies are meant for your future husband or wife. Those things are NOT meant to be shared with everyone in the fish bowl. Just the one with the heart for you!

Keep it guarded. It means you need to find your acceptance and love in Christ not boyfriends and girlfriends. Without a love relationship with Christ you will dive into relationships with no emotional boundaries.

Christ is the only one that can fill that void in your life and in your heart.

Romans 5:1-5

Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us. Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into this place of undeserved privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory. We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.